Hm. Are you also then suggesting that you might not let the folks you like choose?
Interesting concept... I can actually agree with that to some degree. The ones I care about are exceptions to rules that I would normally apply to every other person on earth. I would kill and die to protect or avenge them, for example. Is it wrong, then, to think that I might deny them their own free will if they are going to hurt themselves?
That runs the risk of treating your loved ones not as people but as objects. I think there's a balance, though, in a healthy relationship. Not a balance, really, but a fusion between "I respect your wishes more than anything else" and "I treasure your well-being more than anything else."
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Date: 2005-12-29 06:42 pm (UTC)Interesting concept... I can actually agree with that to some degree. The ones I care about are exceptions to rules that I would normally apply to every other person on earth. I would kill and die to protect or avenge them, for example. Is it wrong, then, to think that I might deny them their own free will if they are going to hurt themselves?
That runs the risk of treating your loved ones not as people but as objects. I think there's a balance, though, in a healthy relationship. Not a balance, really, but a fusion between "I respect your wishes more than anything else" and "I treasure your well-being more than anything else."